Have you ever had a heated argument with the guy you’re into, only to find that he’s blocked you afterward? It can be a confusing and frustrating experience, leaving you wondering what went wrong and whether there’s any chance of salvaging the relationship. In this article, we’ll explore some possible reasons why he may have blocked you after a disagreement. These reasons can help you understand his behavior and determine your next steps. Then, we will advise you on how to act before worsening the situation.
“He blocked me after an argument” 4 common reasons
First of all, try to identify which one is your specific scenario. You might need to talk to a friend if you cannot think straight about this.
He knew he couldn’t control himself
Sometimes, when a guy is really into you, he may find it difficult to control his emotions during an argument. This can lead to him saying or doing things that he later regrets, and he may feel embarrassed or ashamed of his behavior. In these cases, blocking you could be a way for him to distance himself from the situation and avoid further conflict. If this is the case, it may be worth giving him time and space to cool down before trying to reach out to him again.
He knew you weren’t being rational
Let’s face it, we all have moments where our emotions get the best of us, and we say things we don’t necessarily mean. If you were arguing with the guy you like and felt you were being irrational or unfair, he may have blocked you to protect yourself from further hurt or frustration. In this case, it might be worth reflecting on your behavior and seeing if there are any ways you could have handled the situation better.
He tends to avoid conflict
Some people are naturally conflict-averse, and if the guy you like falls into this category, he may have blocked you simply because he doesn’t want to deal with the stress of an argument. This doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t care about you, but it does suggest that he may need some time and space to process his feelings before he’s ready to engage with you again.
You crossed a line
Finally, he blocked you after your argument because you said or did something that he felt was unacceptable. This could be anything from insulting him to violating his trust somehow. If this is the case, taking responsibility for your actions and apologizing sincerely is essential. However, remember that just because you apologize doesn’t necessarily mean he will be ready or willing to forgive you immediately. It may take time and effort to rebuild his trust and repair the damage that was done.
What should you do if he blocked you after an argument
Now, what’s done is done. It’s time to face the music. The most important thing you can focus on is what you can do now to help fix things or, at least, not make them worse. Here are some tips that you should follow, depending on the situation.
Give him time and space
If the guy you like has blocked you after an argument, respecting his boundaries and giving him the time and space to process his feelings is important. This means refraining from contacting him, even if you have something important to say. While resisting the urge to contact him can be challenging, doing so may only worsen things and prolong the healing process.
Apologize if you crossed a line
If you said or did something during the argument that you later regret, it’s essential to take responsibility for your actions and apologize sincerely. This doesn’t necessarily mean that he will forgive you right away, but it can go a long way toward repairing the damage that was done. When apologizing, focus on your behavior rather than his, and avoid making excuses or justifications for what you did.
Seek the opinion of a trusted third party
Sometimes, getting an outside perspective on the situation can be helpful. This could be a close friend or family member who knows you and the guy you like or even a professional counselor or therapist. Talking to someone else can help you gain insight into the situation and determine the best way forward.
Let him know you’re willing to talk
If you need to talk to the guy you like to resolve the situation, it’s okay to let him know you’re willing to do so. However, respecting his boundaries and giving him the space he needs if he’s not ready to talk yet is important. When you eventually have the conversation, approach it with empathy and understanding, and avoid getting defensive or aggressive.
Don’t seek revenge
It can be tempting to seek revenge or retaliate in some way if the guy you like has blocked you after an argument. However, this is never a productive or healthy way to handle the situation. Instead, focus on caring for yourself and finding healthy outlets for your emotions, such as journaling, exercising, or spending time with supportive friends and family.
Use the time to reflect on the situation
Being blocked by someone you care about can be a painful experience, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and self-reflection. Consider what happened during the argument, how you contributed to the situation, and what you can do differently in the future. This can help you learn from the experience and become a better partner in future relationships.
Move on if necessary
Finally, it’s important to recognize that sometimes, despite our best efforts, a relationship may not be salvageable. If the guy you like has blocked you and shows no signs of wanting to reconcile, it may be time to accept that the relationship is over and focus on moving on. This can be a difficult and painful process, but it’s essential to prioritize your emotional well-being and happiness.
He blocked me after an argument—Final Words.
While being blocked by someone you care about can be hurtful and confusing, it’s important to remember that there are often many different factors at play. By considering possible reasons why the guy you like may have blocked you after an argument, you can better understand his perspective and make more informed decisions about moving forward.
Whether that means giving him space, reflecting on your behavior, or working to rebuild trust, the key is to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. How would you have reacted if you were in his shoes? Do you think he is being fair and wise or selfish and unempathetic? Let’s discuss it in the comments. You can start by telling us what happened.
Zoe
Thursday 15th of February 2024
I just want to understand what has happened. Part of me agrees its best its over, but I'm just so confused about the situation.
This happen on the 4/02/24 and we had just come back from a friends wedding where we had a lovely time and even had holidays planned in the future together (March and May) All was good. Yes, we have had our ups and down and had parted ways early on in the relationship, but we had been good for a long time.
He's a troubled man, chooses to live in a van with his two dogs and wants to escape from the world. He is on low dose of antidepressants and has many believes that might not be the usual. (I did not mind this at all, and understood that he sometimes has a hard time with life) He's had a very rough upbringing, abusive father, brother died in car crash and had a few toxic ex's. He has ADHD and PTSD.
We were just sat in my living room having a normal conversation, no arguments or fights. I happen to mention a conversation about smoking (he's a vape user and not smoked for 3-4 years and even voiced his dislike for it himself in the past) I mentioned a boundary that i hadn't even mentioned before in our almost 2 year long relationship. That if he started to smoke again he was gone. I hate the smell so much. (Granted i probably could of worded it slightly better)
That simple sentence caused him to shut down and think completely different about me. Apparently i no longer loved him and NEVER did or i wouldn't of said that. I naturally got very upset that i had hurt him as that really wasn't my intention. I apologized many times and sat next to him to let him explain about smoking being an addiction and how difficult it is to stop. He told me facts i didn't know at the time and i said sorry that i wasn't aware.
He left that day didn't stay for tea as he usually did and was very closed off for the next day, but we said Good Morning and were texting with heart emojis and even laughed about something i had seen, so i thought all was ok, or at least he just needed some extra time to heal, as as he walked out the day before he said i shouldn't stress about it and he will get over it. (I was crying)
On the 5th (next day) i was on a mutual video game we play and it full of men, so as you can imagine there is banter and jokes. I was talking to another player about symmetrical base layouts. I says "My base if a perfect match down the middle" and three of us on the group chat where joking about a playing getting 69% as you would imagine in a group full of men. (I might add that the 69 thing happens every time someone gets that score, so its wasn't a new thing)
I then received a text message from my boyfriend saying that chat talk wasn't attractive and i was making a fool or him. I apologized as i really had nothing else to say, i was shocked that he would react that way. I did try and call him to talk in person, but the call was rejected.
He told me he was stressing and hurting and to not call him, he wasn't ready talk about it and wasn't sure if he ever will be. Said again how the original comment about smoking had completely changed things and he no longer looked at me the same. He was stuck, shocked and baffled. I didn't reply as i had nothing to say and he was asked for space and said he didn't want to talk about it, so space i gave him.
Two hours later i got a 'OK no answer says it all' message, in which i said he asked for space. He agreed he did, but that he wanted me to get his things ready to collect as he will never get over what i originally said.
I just said 'OK' at this point I'm speechless and so confused as to what it happening. The list of hateful messages followed quickly.
No respect to reply, too cowardly to be honest so make him fall out of love with me. He said he would send someone else to collect his things.
I send one message saying i wasn't going to fight with him, that I'm sorry and never said anything to hurt him, i didn't appreciate the hateful comments and that he asked for space, but even giving him what he wanted didn't please him. I said i will get his things ready as requested as his mind was made up.
He followed with some further hatefully messages saying the signs are all there i can't be trusted, he thought i was a nice personal, but I'm dishonest and was showing signs in our conversations that i backtrack and stop mid way.
I didn't respond to this, as it upset me. I'm not a horrible personal and i believe i have been nothing but loving and caring in our relationship.
I got his things ready, as requested. All washed, dried and folded and in a box ready for the following day. I send a message asking about two larger items, in which he said 'Not Wanted' and told me to bin his intimate adult items we has together.
I told him the safe location i put his space van key so it didn't get lost and he said 'oh cool' with a sunglasses emoji and that was it. His things where collected the following day when i was at work and then i was blocked from everything. Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp and kicked of the game we played together.
Its now the 15th and we haven't had any contact since the 8th.
I'm just so confused we could go from planning holidays in his campervan together, laughing and joking about me being a keeper at his friends wedding (We both do not wants kids or marriage) to me being the most hateful person and blocked off everything in the space of 4 days.
liza
Thursday 17th of August 2023
please I want some advice, the man I care about block me without any words but before that happened we have normal conversation I was just mad at something and I start swearing and I know I have said harsh words to him, but few days before this happened, he open up to me that he has some problems and he also want some longer refreshments like a year or so and planning to deactivate his messenger account and he take my WhatsApp number. And when the moment I was mad I have said harsh words and I go out take some walk to cool off, while waiting for his reply ,the next day I realized I was being block by him, and I was panic and I don't know what to do because this is the very first time he did this to me, and I REMEBER BEFORE he said he will never block me, also whenever we are in argument before or I fight with him he is so patience to me, he only block me in one account in my other account that we used to talk always he never block me there, I'm using that account to reach him out and say sorry to him admit my mistakes and everything , and I even say how I valued what we been through in a year that we been communicating together, but then there is no sign if he read my messages because its only sent and not delivered, and I'm assured that I was been restricted or ignored , we been in relationship 1 year and 2 months. I even sent him an email for apologize but I don't know if that email is still active, I did my best to reach him out to seek forgiveness, but until now its been two weeks no sign of reconciliation, a lot of questions running in my head, and also he is a very busy person. will he come back? and talk to me? does he need space? why he have to block me in my one account and not everywhere? what's the longest period I have to wait and give him space? is it weeks? months or years? And he block me without saying anything:< his only words stuck in my head before this happened was "I cant imagine in a day without talking to you" and I miss him a lot hoping we can get back together and I promise myself I try my best to have a better communication with him hope you can help me now please, I miss him and I don't know what to do.
Zoe
Thursday 15th of February 2024
@liza, I would say for your own health, try not to dwell on this. Keep your mind busy and talk to friends and family.
Do not be afraid to cry it out. Don't keep the sadness inside.
Deep down you need to make the decision, do you want to have to ever go through this again? If not, try to move on and not contact him for a while. Give him the space, he will either come back or not.